tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post8713207158702628837..comments2023-05-04T07:36:37.091-06:00Comments on My Journey: Little Girls and Beauty Pageantstlcukjourneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18126317345680620502noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-17606704116083635902014-02-11T10:14:20.547-06:002014-02-11T10:14:20.547-06:00I don't agree with the beauty pageants featuri...I don't agree with the beauty pageants featuring little girls with super pushy moms, but like Sarah said, I've known girls who have been in them from an older age, and it taught them great public speaking skills, to be more positive, and gave them more confidence. My mom actually used to be in beauty pageants and she was a basketball star, cheerleader, got great grades, participated in rodeos, was an all rounder. I think there's a lot of negative connotations with them, but I do think there can also be a lot of good as well, and you can actually win scholarships and it can open opportunities for you as an older participant. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16539981187921601209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-60549034459039788872014-01-13T09:25:11.152-06:002014-01-13T09:25:11.152-06:00I totally agree Tammy. It really doesn't do an...I totally agree Tammy. It really doesn't do anything for me it's all a bit weird if you ask me. I'd never allow my daughter to do anything like that.<br />I like to promote natural beauty with my daughter.<br />Interesting post. Good for you for taking a stand xforgetmenotsbluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17976434872327270110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-79015040276493644792014-01-10T11:40:15.624-06:002014-01-10T11:40:15.624-06:00You are so right to put your foot down over this i...You are so right to put your foot down over this issue, I hope she took it well. As for your new man, I hear what you are saying but still please be careful - none of us want you to get hurt. xtopchelseagirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03184553018734994467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-23539576591242130502014-01-09T13:11:53.306-06:002014-01-09T13:11:53.306-06:00Don't know much about these pageants except fo...Don't know much about these pageants except for an article in the paper and one programme but it seems to me that the main benefit is for the mums not the children! It is hard when they desperately want something and you won't allow it. Oh to be a parent! Exciting news about your new chap! Hope you are still planning your trip to London this summer? Would be great to meet you. <br />So wishing you a belated Happy New Year!! Lizzy xLizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17172354400355829318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-81412770534983159502014-01-09T10:30:15.506-06:002014-01-09T10:30:15.506-06:00Oh gosh Tammy, you're soooo right to not let h...Oh gosh Tammy, you're soooo right to not let her enter any of those pageants. I think they are really horrible. What must those mothers be thinking of, letting their daughters look like that. Can they not realise that their little girls are only little for such a short time - time enough for wearing false nails, eyelashes, fake tans etc etc. I'll get off my soap box now. Have a lovely weekend dear Tammy.<br />Patricia xPatriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16116574112768767203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-79209938331029582122014-01-09T04:39:26.617-06:002014-01-09T04:39:26.617-06:00I hope the talk went well Tammy, I'm not a fan...I hope the talk went well Tammy, I'm not a fan of pageants but luckily they're not a big thing over here (another reason you should come to the UK!). As a girl I was very into make up and hair do's from a young age but it was always within the context of a little girl playing. Some of the tv pageant's I've seen actually over do the girls with tans, make up etc so much that they start to look quite ugly, that's in my opinion I should add. Let us know how it went with Hannah. Take care xJayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805509603176943176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-32485248554425582042014-01-08T16:18:06.863-06:002014-01-08T16:18:06.863-06:00I have to say I agree with you - the pageant thing...I have to say I agree with you - the pageant thing is less popular here in the UK but to be honest it all freaks me out,. Little girls should not be wearing prom dresses and make-up! Let them stay muddy and innocent for as long as they can. Good luck with it all. And it's exciting to hear you've met someone! Take care, look out for yourself - but I already know you will. :-) xGillian Roehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05080123177116154219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-91325670670939987942014-01-08T14:58:40.879-06:002014-01-08T14:58:40.879-06:00Tammy, I think you're such a good mummy, and I...Tammy, I think you're such a good mummy, and I'm sure Hannah will appreciate your decision so much, when she is a little older!Susie - secondhandsusie.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16727933470111599594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-63418424052715837312014-01-08T10:34:12.214-06:002014-01-08T10:34:12.214-06:00You are so right to take a stand on this. When I ...You are so right to take a stand on this. When I think of little girls in beauty pageants I always remember Jon Benet Ramsey. I think the pageants are sickening and the parents who are involved in them are beyond horrible.Mac n' Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05732924562630675589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-52747397443455996132014-01-08T09:22:09.668-06:002014-01-08T09:22:09.668-06:00I have never watched that show, and probably never...I have never watched that show, and probably never will. From what I hear, it's more about the mothers than it is the girls anyways. I completely understand you not wanting to allow Hannah to get involved in pageants at such a young age. She needs to be the little girl she is right now. If she wants to dress up and hold pretend fashions shows, then good for her, but the pageants can wait a few years. ;o)<br /><br />However, and this may make me the unpopular one on this thread considering all the other comments are agreeing with you, I don't have a single problem with girls participating in pageants once they're older. In fact, for some girls I think it actually bolsters their self-esteem and helps them grow into well-rounded women. Some of my best friends in high school were pageant competitors for college scholarships and probably my closest blogging friend now was Miss Oregon years ago. If it weren't for these friendships, I'd have the same opinion of pageants as you do. But through these friends I discovered there is much more to competing in pageants than just having a pretty face and a great figure. There may be some bad ones in the mix, but generally these girls are intelligent, motivated, world-aware individuals, and those are three things I can only hope my daughter is when she's older!Sarah Shumatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08178401162208967646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-72108171404183646512014-01-08T09:12:33.844-06:002014-01-08T09:12:33.844-06:00I agree with you absolutely on the no pageants thi...I agree with you absolutely on the no pageants thing but I think I would go about it in a different way... I would kill it with kindness. <br /><br />She gets no decision making power, it's Mommy's pageant. I would make her hate the idea because to sweet Hannah a pageant is pretty make up, sparkles, dresses, routine, winning and a big tiara... I would drag her at the crack of dawn to every sparkle dress shop and make her try on 80 million different dresses but never find "the right one", shoes, hair, make up next... wear those little legs out. Kids hate shopping after a while, it'll work. Wake her up at 6am to practice her walk and routine over and over and over... because this is pageant life. Smile, no smile. smile, no smile, smile! She can't see her friends today, she's to practice, practice, practice... When she finally gets fed up with you say that this is what her life will be like, every day, every single pageant.<br /><br />Hannah is a creative happy, go-getter. She will not like to be tied down to the pageant world, she likes her friends, beign outside, having fun!! She'll give up and then you swoop in with all the praise a Momma can give for her girl making a huge, really grown up decision. <br /><br />Get ice cream and relax. XHazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03480823744494026417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-14420973244824083582014-01-08T08:55:32.835-06:002014-01-08T08:55:32.835-06:00When you said "That is SO not going to happen...When you said "That is SO not going to happen" I let out a big sigh of relief. You are spot on with your assessment of the pageants. I suspect other kids at school watch and dram and all that. But boy -- that's not a place I think most of us women want our kids to go. Certainly not at that age. Maybe when she is much older and has a better sense of herself and her potential, that can be a choice. But right now -- I'm with you! Good luck with the talk.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-33634899187450502142014-01-07T17:00:01.879-06:002014-01-07T17:00:01.879-06:00That show makes my skin crawl. I find it pretty di...That show makes my skin crawl. I find it pretty disgusting, personally. Good for you taking a stand. I can understand why Hannah would want to try it out, but it's not right, in my humble opinion. Plus, think of the money these people spend! Yikes, the whole thing stinks. I'm not worried about you at all, for whatever it's worth. You're a big girl and you'll do what's right for you. I met my husband at a party, after our friends all thought we'd get along and I held off for months, then finally decided to give it a shot. I knew within 24 hours that he was the one for me. If I'd never broken down and gone to meet him, I'd never have met the love of my life. :)Jennifer Hayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04685253944514672324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-30194502638020826242014-01-07T16:52:43.845-06:002014-01-07T16:52:43.845-06:00Oh-That's a tough one, Tammy, but I am with yo...Oh-That's a tough one, Tammy, but I am with you. I want my grandgirls to know they are more than a pretty face. Our little SweetCheeks is known as The Face Of Broadway here but she is bundled to the nines and just looks like a happy little girl-not a speck of makeup on her sweet face. It is going to be hard but sometimes a NO is just that- a NO. You can also tell her it costs a FORTUNE to be in those shows and you have to pay money up front (quite a bit of money) and that it is a financial burden to do it...plus the more obvious reasons of exploitation...which she probably won't "get"...<br /><br />You know, in our hearts, I always think of Jon-benet Ramsey and how awful that was. Had she not been in beauty pageants I do believe she would be a beautiful young adult today.<br /><br />Good luck. xo Diana ps. I am not worried about you with the internet guy-you are smart and tough and will walk away if you need to.NanaDianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14298962791700019785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-78912797838641150882014-01-07T15:30:36.768-06:002014-01-07T15:30:36.768-06:00I trust you to do the right thing Tammy with your ...I trust you to do the right thing Tammy with your new male friendship and with Hannah. I know that you will take care in both things and that you will make careful considerations, weigh up the good points and the bad and make sure that both you and Hannah stay safe. I know that you won't rush into anything or allow Hannah to either. Take care my friend, but have fun too! xxAmy at love made my homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17111180584250029433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-80296651500232474442014-01-07T15:05:39.735-06:002014-01-07T15:05:39.735-06:00Oh my goodness, never having had a daughter and I&...Oh my goodness, never having had a daughter and I'm pleased I never had to deal with this one Tammy. I have seen those pageants featured on TV and I find them a bit creepy and weird if I am honest. I dont like to see little girls dressed and made up as big girls.Funnily enough though when I was a little girl I loved dressing up and making up. I honestly think I agree with you on this one though, beauty is only skin deep and you need to find the beauty within.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00462752559193522943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-88982171399471411422014-01-07T13:28:56.267-06:002014-01-07T13:28:56.267-06:00I very much agree with you - I only had boys but w...I very much agree with you - I only had boys but would be the same as you with a girl. Can you think about something else that would be equally attractive to her. She most likely wants to dress up and look pretty, which she is. What about dancing classes where she can have girlie fun and not be in competition with others.Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03814070177137076757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-60019706361952002912014-01-07T11:46:47.575-06:002014-01-07T11:46:47.575-06:00I completely understand all your worries. It seem...I completely understand all your worries. It seems that there's loads of really dubious influences on girls before they reach teenage years nowadays. It's a lovely job being a Mum but a real toughie too. JxJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07341377291617694838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-3073026783244102182014-01-07T11:42:42.971-06:002014-01-07T11:42:42.971-06:00It is hard for parents to take a stand against the...It is hard for parents to take a stand against their child's wishes, but you are the parent and it's hard work! I happen to agree with you on this issue, but if it weren't this one, it would be another. I wonder if it would be possible to re-direct her interest a little into "developing a personal style."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7911900515801263690.post-612773219672418542014-01-07T11:39:48.064-06:002014-01-07T11:39:48.064-06:00I can imagine how you don't want her to be in ...I can imagine how you don't want her to be in a beauty pageant, I wouldn't either, they are truly dreadful things. I am sure that she will understand this one day too. Good luck with the talk Tammy, I hope it goes well. I love your new photo on your blog, it's beautiful.CJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14311693185700341580noreply@blogger.com